I used to have very low self-esteem, a litany of problems including bad boundaries, toxic relationships with emotionally unavailable and shady folk, and a crippling immune system disease, but this all changed back in the summer of 2005 when I was given a very poor prognosis (like the dead by 40 kind) and yet another breakup from a barely-there guy, and I experienced what I guess some people would call an awakening.
My life changed dramatically in less than a year including going into remission from my ‘incurable disease’, growing my self-esteem to include boundaries, coming to terms with my fear of abandonment, rejection and more, and meeting the man who would go on to become my husband.
For most women, abandonment is perceived as the most emotionally leveling betrayal.
Without trust that her guy will remain faithful to his commitment, a woman is apt to worry endlessly that he will drift away or even worse, find someone else she imagines will fulfill him more. But please don't leave."The theme of abandonment is deeply embedded in the subconscious.
They marry and set sail together back from Knossos to Athens.
On the way, they stop on the island of Naxos for a respite. Ariadne falls asleep on the beach sunbathing and when she awakens Theseus is nowhere to be found.
You know she deserves a bigger commitment from you, but you don’t feel like you can give it to her… It slyly creeps in the side door like a 15 year old at am, coming home from a party that he wasn’t supposed to be at in the first place, and before you realise it, it has you in it’s nasty grasp. Because, and you might not realise this, you’re not actually afraid of commitment.
” Sooner rather than later he starts to resent walking on eggshells around his lover.No amount of sexy underwear, cooking, prancing around like a performing seal and contorting myself into a pretzel in an attempt to be pleasing, was gonna fix my love life.So, I started looking within, asking questions, compassionately exploring my past, road-testing ideas, letting go of baggage so that I could allow myself to heal, letting myself get the right support - basically allowing me to take steps every day to grow my self-esteem and person avoid what I went through and I could support others who have struggled with abandonment, rejection, trauma, people pleasing, emotional unavailability, and feeling ‘not good enough’, to name but a few, then I knew I was making a difference. For more than a decade, I’ve been sharing, not just insights and observations from my own journey, but sharing my gift for understanding our patterns, behaviour, emotions and relationships, giving clarity and healing to experiences and situations that people either couldn’t give a name or description to, or that they thought that they would never get over.A fear of rejection is created by a lack of connection.You can never run away from rejection for long enough to deal with the lack of connection in your life.